In Her Own Right

Letter from M. Carey Thomas to Mary Elizabeth Garrett, October 20, 1893

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Date created 1893-10-20
Creators Garrett, Mary Elizabeth, 1854-1915
Description I was so sorry to end my letter so my dear but all I meant was that even although Lou and Mr. [illegible] may have been there at the time yet if you had chosen you could have kept it from them and as you did not choose to follow Mary’s wishes in that respect why did you make me keep it a secret from Mamie. Mamie never tells anything she is asked not to and as I say it makes things more difficult. Clearly Lou Mr. [illegible] Julia and Mrs de Forest know. If no one knew it would be different. Do you not see? Your letter of the 17 came at noon today I received it after Mrs Wistar had gone and as soon as I had read it I went at the accts again and now at 10:30 I am nearly ready. What will you think when I tell you I have promised to speak on the 31st at the opening of the Normal Sch in Phila. It is the first time the Board of Ed. has asked a woman and above all anyone identified with Higher Ed. which they hate and altogether as the Gov and all the politicians of education and 1500 other people were to be there I concluded and Mamie wished one to also I ought to do it. I suppose - to be frank - the real reason is the effect on my Trustees. Of course your letter about your sleeping badly and feeling so wretched is only what is to be expected when for 1 week you stay in the house and upstairs without any relief or change. Of course I am in despair. I suppose if Robb’s illness continues however long you will continue the same regime. If in spite of all my entreaties you begin keeping up with strong tonics I shall stop writing to you. I shall have no heart for it. I am really too displeased with you for paying no attention to my entreaties to be more careful to care to write about Robb’s illness or anything else. I cannot understand how you can care so little for consequences or for me. I am not sure you would care to see me so much if you know how unable I should be to be nice if you looked ill. Please remember the illness may be for long and please begin a regular course of life. Your bill I have no sympathy with - A person who does not ask prices at a hotel like that inclined to cheat in every way deserves whatever they can make her pay. I suppose I feel so fearfully cross bec I am tired. And after all I do love you and oh if I should not see you next week. It has been so long, so long I forget that you could ever have been so near. Goodnight my dear. I think of you so much and long so much to have the strain over and Robb and Julia would say either better really and truly or better in the ordinary sense.
Size 10 pages
Type text
Subjects Garrett, Mary Elizabeth, 1854-1915 | Thomas, M. Carey (Martha Carey), 1857-1935 | Female friendship | Women in education | Health | Sick
Geographical location Bryn Mawr (Pa.); Chicago (Ill.)
Language English
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Contributing institution Bryn Mawr College
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